Tuesday, May 27, 2025

January 21, 2025 - RIP Gary Gerard, Man of Hospitality

 While I’d known OF Mary Ellen and Gary

WAIT…As an aside…its difficult to talk about Gary without saying “Mary Ellen & Gary”

So… Because of my Posey County 
Sister and brother in law

I’d known OF Mary Ellen and Gary

Pretty much since I moved to Evansville 36 years ago

We were … mild acquaintances

Until about 10 years ago, when they invited me here
To St Stephen’s 

That’s when we became…I don’t know…

Maybe I’d call it “heart friends”

WHICH is…SO like them…right?

Invitation and Hospitality
That’s the theme that runs deep

As we remember Gary’s life

 

Here…In this church

This is where Mary Ellen and Gary 

Made their spiritual home

 

They sat right there

That red thing is their cushion

And when they moved to Evansville

There was an invisible holographic sign on that pew

This is Mary Ellen and Gary’s place

DO NOT SIT

Really…No one sat there
Because YOU were…well, still there

 

So it’s important that we are gathered here

Right now

And at this point…We are, together, participating in familiar ritual actions

We recite familiar prayers

And read familiar passages from Scripture

In order to reflect on Gary’s life

In light of his faith

…a faith shared and nurtured here 

year after year, Sunday after Sunday

So that 

we might benefit from his life’s witness
So that we might be poked a little

To do the same sort of reflection in our own lives

 

The family wanted to select scripture passages that Got at the heart of Gary’s particular way living out his faith

1) Gary’s dedication to his vocation of hospitality

2) And his care and concern for neighbors 

…known and unknown

3) And his steadfast love of and commitment to family

 

This first reading from the prophet Isaiah

Is a vision of the ‘Messianic Banquet”

What does it look like to be in the God’s presence

What does it feel like to witness a new heaven and a new earth???

I looks/smells/tastes like rich food and choice wine shared with the saints around a well laid table.
That fits.
Gary loved to make this vision LIVE for people!

 

I think it is marvelous that, biblically speaking,

It is the lavish banquet that is the most perfect image of the blessing of resurrection and eternal life. God is host. Gary is guest.

 

The reading from the Gospel of Matthew’s sermon on the Mount

Helps us see that Gary’s exuberant hospitality 

Was not just a career but a way of life

For I was hungry…well his work was feeding people with more than just food

…and of course he did this for his family…
…for the Indiana State Police at unforgettable Christmas parties

…for us here at St Stephen’s at coffee hour

…through their work with the food pantry

So much noticing HUNGER & THIRST 

…so much feeding

 

Scott told me about how Gary clothed people

And how you might see someone wearing his monogrammed shirts around town;)

 

And as for “sick and in prison”
I met Gary and Mary Ellen when they were visiting a friend in the hospital…hospitals can feel a bit like a prison;)…

 

All of it appears to me

Like an overflowing

An overflowing of an endless reservoir 

of the Love of God poured into his heart

 

Consciously or unconsciously,

My guess is that Gary connected to the idea of the hospitality of God…

A hospitality which begins with an invitation

Come…as John’s Gospel begins

Come…Come and see

Come…Mary Ellen, Marry me

Come…Scott and Sally, come into this world to be loved by me

Come…let me throw you a party

Come…let me celebrate your service to our community

Come…let me introduce you to St Stephens where you will be most welcomed

Come…Cecelia, Alex, Ian and Bryan

Come…Amelia, Violet, Stella, Evelyn, Nora, Sterling, and William

Come and let me be your POKA

Come…let me show you what I have for you

Come…taste this beef from my secret source

Come…let me do this for you

 

Everyone here has stories to tell about Gary

His life is a good one to try and imitate


To be like Gary is to love life in a big way

In an overflowing way

And to know that it is a gift
And to know that it is in the sharing 

That the gift multiplies

 

 

And God says…well done good and faithful servant

Come…now be a guest at my table of plenty

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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